Tweet
If a woman gets a man to invest while she withholds sex, then the man grows increasingly more attached, while the woman remains completely unattached - and even moves further away from attachment, as she loses ever more respect for the supplicating man under her thumb.
That is her optimal strategy to get attention, validation, material provision... basically everything a woman really cares about. Except for sex, which is NOT a conscious goal for most women, but (if we leave out its emotional aspects) something between fun distraction to liability, and can be satisfied by various other means.
Truly, this is the perfect feminine strategy, the only question is whether a woman is hot enough to pull it off.
It's the anti-slut strategy.
A slut is a woman who is not hot enough to get men to invest while withholding sex. She has to put out, or the men leave. When a woman is accused by other women of being a slut, the direct accusation is her ruining other women's high-status, high-return, sex-withholding game with her short-sighted, low-return, immature and/or weak inability to forgo sex. Underneath that though hides the insult that the slut isn't attractive and high-status enough to pull the sex-withholding strategy off successfully, so she just petulantly ruins it for other women, stuffing her face with much smaller, temporary, short-term gains.
I'd go so far as to claim that when women accuse each other of slutiness, sexual drive simply isn't part of the discussion. Women are aware that some among them have higher sexual drive, they're not accusing each other of fucking a lot of guys. They are just expected to do so in the proper way, that doesn't compromise their sisters' sexual strategy:
1. Discretely.
2. With alphas. Basically, women defined a minority of males as sexual providers, and allowed each other to fuck that group. As long as rule #1 isn't broken, so the betas don't grow sour. You can fuck as many verified alphas as you want as long as nobody else knows, and you omit them from your "official" laycount. The only other no-no is if the alpha is in a committed LTR which the woman KNOWS about (if he took off his ring and accepted the burden of cheating, you're totally in the clear).
3. No-strings-attached. Trying to get commitment by providing sex is a no-no, it's one of the clearest signs that you are a slut. Obviously you're not allowed to have sex to try to get a relationship from a beta; that just ruins the beta - hence rule #2. Alphas are for discrete, ideally ONS sex. Even being long-term regular FBs with an alpha is somewhat frowned upon from an anti-slut perspective - it's a move in the wrong direction, sexual-strategy-wise.
I've known the above for quite a while, and it's posing some problems for me as I try to transition to non-ONS and longer retention game. Fast escalation is a way to self-identify as an alpha. Assuming your game is smooth, she will either accept your offer of NSA sex or she won't, which is a direct result of her sexual state and has NOTHING to do with "the type of man she likes" or any other high-minded concepts and difficult-to-surmount obstacles.
The idea that women are more picky than men is a Disney mythology. They are less visual, and most of their stated preferences matter little, especially when it's just sex. The only question is whether she wants get fucked by an alpha RIGHT NOW.
A woman may say she likes tall, handsome men with thick blond bird and blue eyes. And maybe she does, to the extent she'll fawn over the image of one on a magazine cover. But if she's looking for alpha sex, she will fuck a short, ugly, slightly overweight guy, as long as he satisfies the three conditions above. She will do so with less difficulty and more satisfaction than a man st to fuck a fatty.
That's why it's so easy to get sex by coming across alpha, for example with fast-escalation. That's where I am right now. I can get sex, but no emotional commitment.
So here's the final insight of this post.
You know the Disney fantasy about how women are generous with their emotions, while guarded with their sex?
The reality is the OPPOSITE.
Sex for women is NOTHING. It's a biological need, like defecating. Every once in a while they get the urge, and are generally free to satisfy it, as long as they don't violate the 3-ruled sister code above.
The Disney myth is designed to make orbiters feel good: Yeah, this woman you are orbiting LOVES YOU, she just won't have sex with you, since you know, sex is a BIG DEAL for women. It's the NEXT BIG STEP, you're not there yet, you're just a FRIEND at the EMOTIONAL level. But who knows, if you just keep INVESTING...
Reality: if you're "just friends" with a woman, you are NOTHING to her. She won't fuck you even when she needs it because that violates the rules above: you are in her social circle so it's not discrete (especially as you'll probably get needy post-sex and broadcast drama), you're a beta, and it's not really NSA and instantly destructible when you are a part of her life.
For women, there are 3 degrees of increasing importance:
1. "Just friends" - orbiters.
2. Sexual providers.
3. A man she loves.
The first group is absolutely meaningless. Women have ZERO sympathy, empathy, or caring towards their orbiters, they can all just die in a fire, she will shed a few dramatic tears to keep up social appearances but actually feel nothing. Women like to have multiple layers of fallback safeties around them. They can feel anxious and exposed if they have no orbiters, but as long as they have enough of them, each individual orbiter doesn't matter in the least. Each i totally disposable and interchangeable, about as important as the 1001th fastest sperm racing to fertilize her egg. He's there to make sure that if something terribly unfortunate happens to the 1000 fastest sperms, her egg will still get fertilized. (Of course, in that case the egg is still fucked, and she knows it and will do absolutely everything in her power to prevent it; your odds of ever landing a quality women as an orbiter are comparable to those of the sperm).
Sexual providers can die in a fire right after they finish servicing her sexually. They're often not too bad of a choice to get pregnant from, in or out of a relationship with another man - especially when they're physically attractive.
The 3rd group is tricky though. That's the only group that actually controls women. They hold them by their proverbial balls: their EMOTIONS.
So women are fairly free with their sex, but EXTREMELY guarded with their emotions. Their emotions are their demonic real names, the lever to bind and control them. Once you control a woman's emotions, you have real power over her, she is helpless. She will do the craziest shit for you without batting an eye.
Right now, I know how to get sex, but not how to get them to invest emotionally. It's a lot harder than I thought.
In general, you will observe that women are far better sexual strategists than men. They are better at taking care of their needs, and getting what they want from men and relationships with them. I mean, most men don't even know all I just wrote above... How ridiculous is that?!
So far, I've been playing into women's game, by their rules, acting as a discrete, disposable sex-provider. Women used me, I was a cog in their system. Of course, I got fast sex out of the arrangement. But now I want more, more than women would optimally provide me. That's a lot more challenging, since I am now working against actual resistance, to get more than my assigned share, instead of slipping into an approved, mutually beneficial, prescribed role in a play written by women.
That is her optimal strategy to get attention, validation, material provision... basically everything a woman really cares about. Except for sex, which is NOT a conscious goal for most women, but (if we leave out its emotional aspects) something between fun distraction to liability, and can be satisfied by various other means.
Truly, this is the perfect feminine strategy, the only question is whether a woman is hot enough to pull it off.
It's the anti-slut strategy.
A slut is a woman who is not hot enough to get men to invest while withholding sex. She has to put out, or the men leave. When a woman is accused by other women of being a slut, the direct accusation is her ruining other women's high-status, high-return, sex-withholding game with her short-sighted, low-return, immature and/or weak inability to forgo sex. Underneath that though hides the insult that the slut isn't attractive and high-status enough to pull the sex-withholding strategy off successfully, so she just petulantly ruins it for other women, stuffing her face with much smaller, temporary, short-term gains.
I'd go so far as to claim that when women accuse each other of slutiness, sexual drive simply isn't part of the discussion. Women are aware that some among them have higher sexual drive, they're not accusing each other of fucking a lot of guys. They are just expected to do so in the proper way, that doesn't compromise their sisters' sexual strategy:
1. Discretely.
2. With alphas. Basically, women defined a minority of males as sexual providers, and allowed each other to fuck that group. As long as rule #1 isn't broken, so the betas don't grow sour. You can fuck as many verified alphas as you want as long as nobody else knows, and you omit them from your "official" laycount. The only other no-no is if the alpha is in a committed LTR which the woman KNOWS about (if he took off his ring and accepted the burden of cheating, you're totally in the clear).
3. No-strings-attached. Trying to get commitment by providing sex is a no-no, it's one of the clearest signs that you are a slut. Obviously you're not allowed to have sex to try to get a relationship from a beta; that just ruins the beta - hence rule #2. Alphas are for discrete, ideally ONS sex. Even being long-term regular FBs with an alpha is somewhat frowned upon from an anti-slut perspective - it's a move in the wrong direction, sexual-strategy-wise.
I've known the above for quite a while, and it's posing some problems for me as I try to transition to non-ONS and longer retention game. Fast escalation is a way to self-identify as an alpha. Assuming your game is smooth, she will either accept your offer of NSA sex or she won't, which is a direct result of her sexual state and has NOTHING to do with "the type of man she likes" or any other high-minded concepts and difficult-to-surmount obstacles.
The idea that women are more picky than men is a Disney mythology. They are less visual, and most of their stated preferences matter little, especially when it's just sex. The only question is whether she wants get fucked by an alpha RIGHT NOW.
A woman may say she likes tall, handsome men with thick blond bird and blue eyes. And maybe she does, to the extent she'll fawn over the image of one on a magazine cover. But if she's looking for alpha sex, she will fuck a short, ugly, slightly overweight guy, as long as he satisfies the three conditions above. She will do so with less difficulty and more satisfaction than a man st to fuck a fatty.
That's why it's so easy to get sex by coming across alpha, for example with fast-escalation. That's where I am right now. I can get sex, but no emotional commitment.
So here's the final insight of this post.
You know the Disney fantasy about how women are generous with their emotions, while guarded with their sex?
The reality is the OPPOSITE.
Sex for women is NOTHING. It's a biological need, like defecating. Every once in a while they get the urge, and are generally free to satisfy it, as long as they don't violate the 3-ruled sister code above.
The Disney myth is designed to make orbiters feel good: Yeah, this woman you are orbiting LOVES YOU, she just won't have sex with you, since you know, sex is a BIG DEAL for women. It's the NEXT BIG STEP, you're not there yet, you're just a FRIEND at the EMOTIONAL level. But who knows, if you just keep INVESTING...
Reality: if you're "just friends" with a woman, you are NOTHING to her. She won't fuck you even when she needs it because that violates the rules above: you are in her social circle so it's not discrete (especially as you'll probably get needy post-sex and broadcast drama), you're a beta, and it's not really NSA and instantly destructible when you are a part of her life.
For women, there are 3 degrees of increasing importance:
1. "Just friends" - orbiters.
2. Sexual providers.
3. A man she loves.
The first group is absolutely meaningless. Women have ZERO sympathy, empathy, or caring towards their orbiters, they can all just die in a fire, she will shed a few dramatic tears to keep up social appearances but actually feel nothing. Women like to have multiple layers of fallback safeties around them. They can feel anxious and exposed if they have no orbiters, but as long as they have enough of them, each individual orbiter doesn't matter in the least. Each i totally disposable and interchangeable, about as important as the 1001th fastest sperm racing to fertilize her egg. He's there to make sure that if something terribly unfortunate happens to the 1000 fastest sperms, her egg will still get fertilized. (Of course, in that case the egg is still fucked, and she knows it and will do absolutely everything in her power to prevent it; your odds of ever landing a quality women as an orbiter are comparable to those of the sperm).
Sexual providers can die in a fire right after they finish servicing her sexually. They're often not too bad of a choice to get pregnant from, in or out of a relationship with another man - especially when they're physically attractive.
The 3rd group is tricky though. That's the only group that actually controls women. They hold them by their proverbial balls: their EMOTIONS.
So women are fairly free with their sex, but EXTREMELY guarded with their emotions. Their emotions are their demonic real names, the lever to bind and control them. Once you control a woman's emotions, you have real power over her, she is helpless. She will do the craziest shit for you without batting an eye.
Right now, I know how to get sex, but not how to get them to invest emotionally. It's a lot harder than I thought.
In general, you will observe that women are far better sexual strategists than men. They are better at taking care of their needs, and getting what they want from men and relationships with them. I mean, most men don't even know all I just wrote above... How ridiculous is that?!
So far, I've been playing into women's game, by their rules, acting as a discrete, disposable sex-provider. Women used me, I was a cog in their system. Of course, I got fast sex out of the arrangement. But now I want more, more than women would optimally provide me. That's a lot more challenging, since I am now working against actual resistance, to get more than my assigned share, instead of slipping into an approved, mutually beneficial, prescribed role in a play written by women.
Comment