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  • Do you care if you're dating the Village Bicycle?

    Sorry to be crass, but eh.

    Found a girl I've been casually dating for a year - whom I like a lot and met at a work function (works at a sister office) ... apparently has slept with numerous men from my office (before we met). And these were all One Night Stand type deals. The information isn't confirmed by her, but very highly credible.


    I guess I can't fault her for that. But for some reason, I feel duped, or like a clown right now. I'm not sure why. Not sure how much is 'rumor' as well, but some of these alleged guys look physically disgusting (short, overweight, zit faced) and I think that's the part that upsets me the most. Like she's very attractive, but apparently does not have high standards, seemingly. What does that say about me, ya know?

    This is literally like that scene from Office Space where he tells Jennifer Anniston "You slept with LUMBURG?" -- but in this case, unlike the movie, she actually did. I don't work in the same department as these guys so that's not a factor but fuck.


    Haven't brought it up to her yet. I've been reading around and most Blogs about 'the gf's past' say to just leave it alone and move on, and don't bring it up unless you want to end things.


    I don't really blame her, but I think at heart, I do judge her for being easy to an extent. I feel like I need to at least air my feelings, and then move on, after the fact. But I'll probably seem like a huge douchebag trying to bring up a history that she herself didn't even bring up (some clowns at work were gossipping).

  • #2
    nope, I would give 0 fucks about it.
    "A human life gains luster and strength only when it is polished and tempered."

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    • #3
      Do you care if...
      No. At least not really. There might be some outdated biological programming in the back of my mind, playing on some deep insecurities, but as long as I'm conscious, I'd not let it affect the situation.

      What does that say about me, ya know?
      Absolutely nothing.

      ---

      I can understand the sentiment, after all it might feel like it's taking a toll on your social status (sucks your girl's history is within the same extended social circle), but as far as I see, if you actually like this girl, why would you let your own insecurities affect whatever you have with her. Your ego got bruised, get over it.

      There were couple of times in my past when I let shit like that interfere with my relationships with women and looking back, in both cases I feel like a tool for letting social pressure and my own ego win.

      That said, I'm very interested to see what others have to say on the topic.
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      • #4
        Nope, don't care. In fact I like a promiscuous woman. I even like hearing details of her past promiscuity. Gives me a boner.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Bigslick2 View Post
          I guess I can't fault her for that. But for some reason, I feel duped, or like a clown right now. I'm not sure why.
          Because you know that this is something guys make jokes about and they probably actually are snickering behind your back. Question is, why are they doing that? In my opinion, the answer is that they're doing it because they're immature and sexually repressed. So, ask yourself who you'd rather fit in with: the teenage boys high fiving around the water cooler, or the fun sexy girl you're boning?

          Haven't brought it up to her yet. I've been reading around and most Blogs about 'the gf's past' say to just leave it alone and move on, and don't bring it up unless you want to end things... I feel like I need to at least air my feelings, and then move on, after the fact. But I'll probably seem like a huge douchebag trying to bring up a history that she herself didn't even bring up (some clowns at work were gossipping).
          Your instincts are correct - you will look like a huge douchebag who has sexual hang-ups and a serious M/w complex. I mean, what do you hope to get out of such a conversation? An apology? Are you hoping she'll say something that'll make you feel better? Or maybe that once you get it out of your system and insult her for having sex you'll feel better? Don't do it. You'll both walk away feeling worse.

          Either let this go or break up with her, because taking your hang-ups out on her isn't nice.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Bigslick2 View Post
            Sorry to be crass, but eh.

            Found a girl I've been casually dating for a year - whom I like a lot and met at a work function (works at a sister office) ... apparently has slept with numerous men from my office (before we met). And these were all One Night Stand type deals. The information isn't confirmed by her, but very highly credible.


            I guess I can't fault her for that. But for some reason, I feel duped, or like a clown right now. I'm not sure why. Not sure how much is 'rumor' as well, but some of these alleged guys look physically disgusting (short, overweight, zit faced) and I think that's the part that upsets me the most. Like she's very attractive, but apparently does not have high standards, seemingly. What does that say about me, ya know?

            This is literally like that scene from Office Space where he tells Jennifer Anniston "You slept with LUMBURG?" -- but in this case, unlike the movie, she actually did. I don't work in the same department as these guys so that's not a factor but fuck.


            Haven't brought it up to her yet. I've been reading around and most Blogs about 'the gf's past' say to just leave it alone and move on, and don't bring it up unless you want to end things.


            I don't really blame her, but I think at heart, I do judge her for being easy to an extent. I feel like I need to at least air my feelings, and then move on, after the fact. But I'll probably seem like a huge douchebag trying to bring up a history that she herself didn't even bring up (some clowns at work were gossipping).
            Listen i wrote about and teach about do not worry about women past, do not judge women, women are not whores or slusts only beta think that.... Again i teach all that shit! But we are all doing all this self improvement and game for happiness (after all)

            I can smell a bunch of drama (based on your post and your feelings toward the situation)

            In this case my advice is to manage your expectation and to have her as A FB, go through the right process of dating:

            1.- have a lot of girls

            2.- date a couple of them

            3.- the one that you kind of like spend a bit more time with her and screen her

            4.- LET HER WIN YOU OVER...

            Anyways no matter what any posters including myself say, is all about your happiness... A dude like nwp for example would not give a fuck and have all the co workers gangbang here as he watches tv...But his happiness will be at a 100.... You in this situation, your happiness would be -50

            Aka a dude like you may have anxiety and problems with the situation....

            With that being said, part of being a good seducers is suppressing beta emotions such as jealousy, possessiveness etc...

            At the end of the day is your life/happiness and how you feel about the whole thing... I personally would not date a girl that has been with people i know (my own player type code)
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            • #7
              Originally posted by Bigslick2 View Post
              I do judge her for being easy to an extent.
              This type of slut shaming and heterophobia on a red pill forum is truly sickening.

              The "village bicycle?"

              First of all, are you some kind of a proud virgin? If not, get off your fucking high horse. And even if you are, get off your fucking high horse!

              By calling her "the village bicycle" you are stripping her of all heterosexuality and are making her out to be this asexual creature whom sex is something that other people do to her while she is an object to be ridden on, as she remains passive. This is the Disney conservative notion indicating that only men are heterosexual, while women are asexual. And it's a garbage notion!

              Seriously, drop this slut shaming crap. You're coming off like a beta with zero experience in the secret society! I'm sure you have relished the thought of being the village bicycle yourself for as many women who want to ride you as possible! Stop being a 1950s prude!

              I feel like I need to at least air my feelings, and then move on,
              Now you're just being a beta pussy! How would that convo go? "Hey honey, I don't like how you love sleeping around as much as I do. I want a woman who hates sex. So we're done!"

              LMAO!

              But I'll probably seem like a huge douchebag trying to bring up a history that she herself didn't even bring up
              No. You'll just seem like a typical blue pill beta who wants only men to be straight while women get to be asexual objects for your exclusive territorial possession. In other words, your secret society credentials will be revoked.

              You need to come to terms with the fact that all of us men here want to be village bicycles ourselves. Calling a woman the village bicycle in a derogatory manner for having the same dream as all of us - as if you want some cold fish prude in your bed - is the height of blue pill hypocrisy and shows that you are still suffering from Disney based mind control!

              Stop it!

              Village bicycles (like us) should be celebrated, not condemned!
              SLUT SHAMING IS HATRED OF MEN

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              • #8
                Madonna/whore complex. Get over it.

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                • #9
                  All women are promiscuous by nature. There are some who haven't done it yet, some who lie about it, and some damage cases who really wont do it, but the point stands

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                  • #10
                    Hmm, you guys are definitely mostly falling on one side of the coin here, no one will even attempt to play Devil's advocate? (I guess my opinion here or rather my visceral feelings at the situation).

                    I've read all your comments, and feel like you might be right, that maybe I just have some outdated complex. But then how come I still feel like shit? How do I stop feeling like shit?

                    Are you hoping she'll say something that'll make you feel better? Or maybe that once you get it out of your system and insult her for having sex you'll feel better? Don't do it. You'll both walk away feeling worse.
                    I'm hoping she'll deny at least part of it, that may make me feel better.

                    Also I feel like getting it out there 'hey some idiots at the bar were talking about your past, wanted to punch them in the face, I don't like hearing about past details though, didn't make me feel too good."

                    But fair point. She will obviously only feel worse from any comment, but that's true of almost any relationship "grievance."

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Skills360 View Post
                      A dude like nwp for example would not give a fuck and have all the co workers gangbang here as he watches tv...
                      Um, excuse me, but no! I would be participating in the gang bang! I'm not some beta cuckold, for fuck sake.

                      Either that, or I would be with a fuck buddy while she's with her own. But I certainly don't just passively sit there and do nothing while my girl is being banged! That's fucking omega! The only time she has actual group sex without me is when she attends one of her mom's swinger parties, which I have been banned from. But aside from that one exception (and even then I'm with an FB usually), she includes me every time she has group sex.

                      In fact, the wildest recent experience for me was a week ago when she wanted double penetration in her ass, but since I didn't want my dick to touch another man's dick, she got two of her fuck buddies (one black and one Hispanic) to put it in her ass at the same time while I fucked her in the pussy. So it turned into a rainbow bang! Now she wants to experiment with double penetration in her vagina, which I'm pretty squeamish about.

                      Either way though, I participate in some capacity.

                      P.S. I do not have a TV. I'm not a dinosaur. No offense to anyone here who still actually has a working TV in their home.
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Bigslick2 View Post
                        Hmm, you guys are definitely mostly falling on one side of the coin here, no one will even attempt to play Devil's advocate?
                        You've been on this forum since 2011. You're surprised that we don't slut shame here?

                        I've read all your comments, and feel like you might be right, that maybe I just have some outdated complex. But then how come I still feel like shit? How do I stop feeling like shit?
                        By realizing that your own logic makes no sense. You want a woman who hates sex? Wouldn't she be boring in bed? Ah, but you want a woman who loves sex, but only with you and hates it with everyone else, don't you! Again, this is territorial possession based on your inner insecurities. You're acting like an irrational woman who wants her alpha man to "commit." Only fat and ugly women with no opportunities will enthusiastically bang you while not sleeping with others due to a lack of opportunity.

                        Do some soul searching and realize that this is just your own insecure hang ups. And reframe her fucking you as trading up from the ugly dudes. That should make you feel proud, not sad.

                        I'm hoping she'll deny at least part of it, that may make me feel better.
                        Why? You want a woman who is less experienced with sex and less enthusiastic about it, not more? I can't understand this. You have a Disney purity fetish.

                        Also I feel like getting it out there 'hey some idiots at the bar were talking about your past, wanted to punch them in the face, I don't like hearing about past details though, didn't make me feel too good."
                        If you say that, you will come off as a sex-hating, slut shaming beta! If dudes talk about her promiscuous past (and hopefully, her promiscuous present as well), you should take it as a compliment. Why do you want to punch somebody in the face for complimenting a woman on her sexual experience? Why don't past details about her sex life make you feel good? For me, the more sexual she was/is, the more turned on I am. But I like women who like sex. I'm weird that way. I guess you prefer a virgin Cinderella?

                        But fair point. She will obviously only feel worse from any comment, but that's true of almost any relationship "grievance."
                        Why is her liking sex a grievance, instead of being in the plus column?
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                        • #13
                          Eh it's not so much the high amount of sex and partners, it's more of the lack of standards, and me personally knowing the people.

                          I don't consider myself very possessive, she's free to do what she wants, I just largely don't want to know about it. I know it causes these shitty feelings.

                          Why do you want to punch somebody in the face for complimenting a woman on her sexual experience?
                          Nice reframe but let's be real here. It was gossip and definitely told in a mean-spirited and disrespectful fashion. It also lacks discretion just to talk about someone's sex life. I mean in your universe that may be different, but there are social consequences to these things of course potentially.

                          I didn't actually want to strike anybody; it was more of my text idea but I'm sure if I did bring this up, she would probably be appalled that this 'gossip' was even happening at all, sadly.

                          Also as an aside, ironically, her instincts are pretty close to mine. Of all my past girlfriends and her, she's the one who's MOST insecure and upset about me even hinting, pretending, or suggesting anything about sexual history with another woman, past or hypothetical. It's obviously some kind of jealousy instinct.

                          If she found out I fucked one of her colleagues (in the past) she'd probably flip a shit, definitely be very hurt.

                          For me, probably the same, but it's definitely knowing the people that's really fucking with my head. Some of these colleagues are detestable.

                          But it also makes me think I'm just another notch for her and the relationship don't mean shit.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Bigslick2 View Post
                            Hmm, you guys are definitely mostly falling on one side of the coin here, no one will even attempt to play Devil's advocate? (I guess my opinion here or rather my visceral feelings at the situation).

                            I've read all your comments, and feel like you might be right, that maybe I just have some outdated complex. But then how come I still feel like shit? How do I stop feeling like shit?



                            I'm hoping she'll deny at least part of it, that may make me feel better.

                            Also I feel like getting it out there 'hey some idiots at the bar were talking about your past, wanted to punch them in the face, I don't like hearing about past details though, didn't make me feel too good."

                            But fair point. She will obviously only feel worse from any comment, but that's true of almost any relationship "grievance."
                            Listen women go through stages, a so call "whore/slut" yesterday could be "a really good faithful girl" tomorrow and viceversa... Even lover girl i used to argue with her that she will eventually get kind of sick of her adventures and want to pair bond with one guy.. (which i predicted correctly)

                            Also, the second main important thing you need to know is that a girl that is with a dude, and act promiscuous with that dude... Will be a "prude" with another dude....In other words women will adapt to the guy she is "dating'....

                            I've read all your comments, and feel like you might be right, that maybe I just have some outdated complex. But then how come I still feel like shit? How do I stop feeling like shit?
                            teevester, nwp, jws, have a lot of good material that will help in their sedfast archives...

                            Also These 2 are pretty good on m/w:

                            http://www.theskillsmethod.com/the-2...-to-seduction/

                            and

                            http://www.theskillsmethod.com/expos...om-an-insider/


                            Also women go through life stages, they will engage in cock carousel from 18-24

                            and after divorces or break ups... Then they eventually like to pair bond...(Obviously i am generalizing they still will sleep around and date a lot, but their ultimate goal is likely a bf, even if short term...)
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                            • #15
                              I can't really say much, not knowing the other guys. I will say this, though: if I found out I was dating a woman who had a sexual history filled with shitty guys I'd question her judgment and intelligence. But that would mean me finding out she was writing to convicted serial killers and getting conjugal visits.

                              I mean it would take some extreme shit, not like "oh you banged tom? But he's dumb as a rock!"

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