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    Showtime! (to hell w 'faking')

    The guilt / assumption that we are being judged for the things we do..
    ..I feel it comes from a place of wanting to hide our 'dual layers'; A) what we do B) what we want to achieve. The thinking becomes:

    "If I do X, what will others think of me."
    (Note the conflict of "X" vs. "I"/"me" in this statement.)

    "Showtime!" - Im putting on a show / performing an act / going into character / 'gameface' / etc..
    (This is 'honest'/'upfront' duality. "Im putting on a show over here. Check it out.")

    For me personally, this way of thinking makes all the difference in the world. I never want to be the person 'trying to be something'. That KILLS me inside. I want to be the person putting on a show. That level of 'honesty' sets me free somehow.

  • #2
    In sales I notice a similar thing. Grant Cardone calls it ďDoing what works vs. Doing what looks goodĒ

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    • #3
      Maybe the whole "Showtime" should be swapped out with something else?

      Especially considering it is a phrase used by many forum members here for a whole different context?

      -Teevster
      Teevster (TVA_Oslo) AKA. Alek Rolstad

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      • #4
        The wholly grail of pick up in my opinion is coming across authentic while using some tech that is congruent... For me cocky funny, sexual trolling, fake angry etc... works cause is congruent you can still incorporate tech into who you are... But being honest, authentic, best version of you is where is at... women can sense incongruence of character..

        How many times you see posters imitating something that got multiple times laid another poster and they can not get it to work... Then the second poster gets piss and say "you did not do it right" then poster b said "yes i did it just like that multiple times"




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        • SargeMaximus

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          Agree with this. All pick up advice should attempt to help guys incorporate tech that is congruent. Unfortunately, most advice is “do it this way or gtfo “

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          I get that, what I’m saying is the main focus should always be on HOW to discover what is congruent.

      • #5
        pickup is a performing art and when you first start none of it is congruent you gotta practice it enough times til it is congruent ...the canned openers colgate gave me sound natural when i say em cuz I practiced to the point of congruency.if everyone did what they are naturally inclined to ,then they wouldnt improve.....Congruency is key ..practicing the same material over and over til its DOWN is how you achieve that ,not taking the half ass easy way out and doing what feels natural to you!

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        • #6
          My Tai Chi teacher has a beautiful way of explaining the congruency problem:

          In Tai Chi, you can learn certain "forms", specific ways of moving your body. Once you get used to them, practicing them is something like meditation, it's pretty cool. But if you simply follow them in a real fight, you'll most probably lose. First, those forms assume that your opponent moves in a certain way. If he doesn't, you'll be unable to defend yourself properly. Second, your own movements will be quite predictable, at least to someone who has seen those forms in action. Not a good idea in a fight.

          So what you'll have to do instead is to "tune in" to the situation at hand, and let it dictate your movements. If you do that, you'll encounter certain limits to your movability every once in a while. That's where the "forms" come in handy. They are designed to have you expand your movability in a relaxed practicing environment so you can use an expanded movability when necessary.

          You can apply the very same concept to anything in life. Let's take emotions as an example. If you're "in tune" with a situation, the most appropiate response to a situation might be anger. But perhaps you've developed the idea that "anger is bad", so you block yourself from going into that anger. That inner blockade throws you out of that "in tune" state, and your reaction to a situation becomes off, incongruent. Now that you're aware of this inner limitation, you can use certain techniques to practice expanding your movability in terms of emotions, so that next time around you'll be able to surpass your former blockade.

          That's the most healthy approach to exercise and how to incorporate it in a congruent way I've come across so far.

          Jester

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          • #7
            When you watch old school acting there is a way people set the tone. Shakespeare had the narrator but as Ijjji is putting duality Iíd say ďNopeĒ

            What you are pointing at is a mix of conformity and some other textile that Iím not wanting to bother with.

            Remember to put on a show you have to set the stage.
            Is this all in my head? You don't
            move like a normal girl - Normal girls
            don't look like that, not in their eyes
            or the way you orchestrate my butterflies

            Brett McGibbon

            Self improvement isnt anywhere near as powerful as making her tingle lol

            PUA

            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TahFeqo1iiU

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            • #8
              Originally posted by Skills360 View Post
              The wholly grail of pick up in my opinion is coming across authentic while using some tech that is congruent... For me cocky funny, sexual trolling, fake angry etc... works cause is congruent you can still incorporate tech into who you are... But being honest, authentic, best version of you is where is at... women can sense incongruence of character..

              How many times you see posters imitating something that got multiple times laid another poster and they can not get it to work... Then the second poster gets piss and say "you did not do it right" then poster b said "yes i did it just like that multiple times"


              Exactly!

              Congruency, context and calibration go a long way to helping guys succeed and also they help explain why one guy succeeds with a technique whilst another fails.

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              • #9
                Putting on a show is easier said than done. Luckily Ive discovered several things that ALWAYS works.
                I wont bother you with the full list, but just one thing which I havent mentioned much this year.. shyness:

                https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lq_BVyou38s&t=3m22s

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                • #10
                  Ironic blue eyed vibe

                  Id normally never share this, but a girl I was seeing had a funny thing she did making 'big blue eyes' as if spacing out a bit. Since then I do it too, and now my brother even started doing it, possibly after seeing me do it so much. And now I found it crazy funny that this singer on The Voice did exactly the same in one performance, and I find it particularly strange because she had already reminded me of the girl I knew, both face and some other mannerisms she did when flirting with the judges after her first audition. Lol for added coincidental strangeness, let me add that the girl I knew was an occasional pub singer, and on top of that a country fan too (which is kinda rare around here).

                  As for the blue eye thing, Im guessing its in reality something from an old marilyn monroe movie or similar?? (Im pretty sure Ive seen it somewhere but cant pinpoint.)

                  As for this type of vibing, it really great for me personally because it makes me feel bulletproof. And it fills my self amusement tank to point of almost running over.

                  The vid where she does the eye thing several times:

                  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FydZfX9GW0c

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                  • #11
                    Its odd, wait no itís even, on wait itís neither itís both. Iím running into my fifth or sixth year of game and you hand me this to be like the bull in the china shop.

                    I remember Elton Johns Baby Got Blue Eyes. I remember Elvis Blue Suede Shoes. I thought of these two songs.

                    one for the money, two for the show, three to get ready now go cat go but donít you step on my blue suede shoes....... babyís got blue eyes.

                    Its old school, you think this chick wouldnít eat from your lap if you showed her an old school movie or spoke a little poetry about traveling the world?

                    Ijji amusement because of what the world has to offer or because what you have to offer? The two get mixed up more often then not.

                    Is this all in my head? You don't
                    move like a normal girl - Normal girls
                    don't look like that, not in their eyes
                    or the way you orchestrate my butterflies

                    Brett McGibbon

                    Self improvement isnt anywhere near as powerful as making her tingle lol

                    PUA

                    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TahFeqo1iiU

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                    • #12
                      ijjjjji,

                      Your "Showtime"/acting attitude is not much different with the "I don't give a fuck" attitude. If you don't give a fuck and you say funny things then you are in.

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                        Agree!
                        (For many things in PU, there is one one way of thinking that makes more insecure, and another way that makes more "I dont give a fuck".)
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