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  • Girls who bite off more than they can chew

    I've been experiencing a phenomenon lately, actually from time to time for the last like 2-3 years but didn't make a big deal out of it then.

    Like the title says...

    A girl says/does courageous things, she "wakes up" and realises that's not really her, then regrets it. That's why I don't like when girls are "too direct" say sexual stuff, talk dirty, too early( by society's standards) and break the "rules".

    This has happened to me when the girl is impulsive, she's horny at that moment(when texting), when you mention secret society stuff and she's really digging you atm, or ofcourse... she's drunk. I call that the fake courage lol

    I immediately think "shut the fuck up, you're acting courage and shit, then wake up tomorrow and take it back cuz it's more than what you can handle".


    For some examples read below, inside the lines, otherwise skip them

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    "The End" means: it run into the sand, she went cold/stopped responding etc.

    Example 1:

    Girl on tinder, we talked about workout then honesty came up, she then said

    Her: well since we're being honest, I prefer woking out on bed, you get sweaty doing what you like.

    Than after some texting

    Her: since my knee is hurting and I can't go for a run, maybe we should meet and have a trial workout.

    The End

    Example 2:

    Tinder, i asked about the least attractive things men do

    her: when guys spit down there (*she means during oral sex) cuz they think it's sexy

    wow wasn't expecting that, i almost spilled my coffee while reading it

    me: lol damaged by porn

    Then we discuss sex, I mention that when I'm in bed with a girl, i try to get to know her body. That what worked with the last girl doesn't have to work with this one. And some more back and forth

    her: you're right blabla

    yadayada

    her: wow you're good

    The End

    Example 3:

    Talked to a girl on tinder, scheduled a meet after work.

    her: should we do it at your place, my, or you wanna meet outside

    *I didn't want to go to her place immediately, I'm in a period where I wanna meet someone build it up, have some tension, I knew if I go to her place we're having sex.
    .
    me: outside if there is some good place, we can decide the same day

    the weather was ugly, we decided to hang out at her place, brought food. We had sex, slept over and we took the bus together, she went to work I went home.

    The End.

    I actually liked her, nice vibes, from west indies so i loved her skin tone, nice body.

    I was confused why didn't she want to hang out again, My friend joked about maybe the sex was bad, but It wasn't, it was nice seeing her cum, her legs were shaking. She grabbed my hair, dug her nails into my back. The next morning she went down on me and even swallowed.

    her: you're circumcised, it's my first time. It was nice.

    So with so many selfish guys who are kinda bad at sex, I thought she would at least want to meet one more time.

    My conclusion is that she maybe felt kinda cheap or "slutty". We didnt text that much, first meet at her place, she swallows etc..

    There are more examples, and not just tinder even from meeting girls irl.
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    And you don't need very much experience to know that after reaching a point of for example sex talk, fantasies or other personal stuff, you can't return aka the point of no return.
    You can't go back to "normal" talk, after exposing yourself like that it's either go big or go home basically.

    And i usually handle these situations like this:

    *Non-reaction: I show that what she did/said is normal in my world, she doesn't have to feel judged and so on

    *Reward: I thank her for being honest, make it clear that i respect her openness etc.

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    With that said, if you're only looking for ONS, or same night lays, then this shit doesn't matter, just strike while the iron is hot. But I would rather meet someone regulary and build, something even if still don't want a relationship.

    Been thinking of writing this for long time, been procastinating.

    Not necessarily looking for a solution for a problem here, but different perspectives and experiences are welcome.

    Peace

  • #2
    Yes! Have had this happen more times than I can count. SO frustrating

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    • #3
      *I didn't want to go to her place immediately, I'm in a period where I wanna meet someone build it up, have some tension, I knew if I go to her place we're having sex.

      But I would rather meet someone regulary and build, something even if still don't want a relationship.


      I know you didn't come here to look for solutions, but you sound like you don't know what you want. I am guessing that you are looking for an LTR or a fuck buddy, but the style of game your doing contradicts that. You have to screen accordingly to what you want, you can continue to employ the same style of game just screen harder and plant more seeds (talk about future activities you guys could do and see if she seems eager).

      I still believe that the best approach is still to try and fuck as early as you can. You just have to be more strategic with figuring out if her agenda matches yours.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by PUA Reality View Post
        I still believe that the best approach is still to try and fuck as early as you can. You just have to be more strategic with figuring out if her agenda matches yours.
        Yes I had that in the back if my mind, forgot to write it down. I simply need to pay attention to the circumstances I'm meeting women in, and adjust the frame according to my goals.

        Thanks

        Btw this happens when meeting women in general, whether the goal/our agendas are to meet regularly or ONS.

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        • #5
          I've had this happen as well. It's most likely another guy in the picture. Even if she likes you.

          I have a former fwb and we talk about this shit. Only one guy made her cum and he wasn't even her favourite.

          Girls fuck multiple guys but if there's a guy who's number 1 in her heart/mind/body holistically she'll ghost/flake/ and generally like courtesy for all the other guys

          compared to us dudes where we'll try to schedule and almost never flake on girls to get in that sex sessions.

          girls can afford it cuz they have tons of guys knocking on their door and figure ehhh if it doesn't work out with this guy I'll just focus on next guy and most of us just take it cuz we're thirstier in general / we don't know what the fuck they're doing cause women are never honest about it lol

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          • SargeMaximus

            SargeMaximus

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            I’m very intrigued by this. You say only 1 guy made her cum but he WASNT her favourite?

            Does that mean her favourite guy didn’t make her cum?

        • #6
          Most guys are so fucking boring they're practically NPCs as far as most of society is concerned. Yeah sucks to hear but it's true. Even a guy who is jacked and is mechanically trying to make her cum. Try to lighten up and talk about anything interesting whatsoever other than your job or Game of Thrones, etc.

          Also making her cum is .... somewhat important, maybe. I mean, let's get honest, cumming is important (but mostly for men).

          If you're too focused on it though, like "proving your manhood" -- it ruins the mood for everyone.

          I sense that the ideal man for a woman is one that absolutely DOES NOT CARE if she cums during sex, at all. But then just so happens to anyway while he was busy getting his nuts off.
          Men that are too focused on it come across as insecure.

          She probably got obsessed on some guy that used her as a fuck doll then told her to get out. Tale as old as time.

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          • SargeMaximus

            SargeMaximus

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            Yes and imo we needed this clarity long ago. Every girl I’ve been with I made cum multiple times but they never wanted to see me again so I suspected but yes as a man you take what you want and it’s the woman’s role to please you even if it means you use her and she gets nothing out of it.

        • #7
          yes sarge.

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          • SargeMaximus

            SargeMaximus

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            That’s awesome. Means making a girl cum isn’t that important as I suspected. Thanks for sharing. Very important imo.

        • #8
          I don't know for sure sarge though. there was also this girl that I go to sex clubs with and this one guy is one of the only 2 guys that has made her cum and she seems to be jocking him but she still fucks me too so unno *shrugs*

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          • SargeMaximus

            SargeMaximus

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            Regardless, jack says a fwb he had said her favourite was a guy who couldn’t make her cum at all.

          • Velasco

            Velasco

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            You search for anomalies/outliers (which will always exist), so you can rationalize not putting in the work to be the best version of yourself.

            - But why do I need to dress stylish to get girls, if I see guys dressed like shit with hot girls?
            - But why do I need to put in the work to become a sex god, if Jack says this one guy that made a girl cum wasn't her favorite?

            Next is pointing out some fat/skinny fuck with a hot girl - Why do I need to hit the gym and eat healthy if I see fat/skinny guys with hot girls?

            Be the best. Don't worry about the competition and anomalies.

          • SargeMaximus

            SargeMaximus

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            You seem to forget that I bought $3000 worth of clothes in an attempt to maximize my style, or am unaware that I do eat healthy, or that I am working day and night to accomplish my dreams instead of settle for a comfortable life. That I am living in my car right now because following my dreams demand it.

        • #9
          i learned a long time ago sexual framing is only useful when sex is immediately possible. bad logistical or over text is too high risk and just not the best way to go a about it.

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          • Paw

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            Exactly.. but this is a problem when sexual framing is initiated by the girl. So when that happens, and sex immediately is not possible, I try to turn it down a bit, without being perceived as not attracted to her.

        • #10
          "I sense that the ideal man for a woman is one that absolutely DOES NOT CARE if she cums during sex, at all."

          When a girl says shit to you like "omg... you've ruined all my lovers" who do you think her ideal man is: You? Or one of her past lovers?

          Even if her "ideal" man is one of her past lovers, which would you rather be? The boring-in-bed guy, or the man who's too arousing for her own good?

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          • SargeMaximus

            SargeMaximus

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            I’d rather be the guy she’s fucking. Validation is worthless
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