just so you know, those needs from guys are situationally dependent not locked in stone, they just might appear locked in stone cuz the guy sees YOU one way because he sees YOU in one situation
that is a very important distinction to understand
Umm... its like this
sharp tongued girls can be a good thing when you feel rapport is already there, like in a social group, or in a sports arena, or where everyne is expeected to be sedate like a library, because it stirs up a question of "do we connect on another level that ignores this situation"
But in a situation where there is no common rapport like on the street or at a party where the guy doesn't know you, or where you have a different standing than him, he'll take it as though you are vulgar or aggressive towards him (like some chick with no shoes yelling on the street).
Submission expectations are likely to happen where you look sexier, so clubs, or events, or bonfires. But in other places, he does that and is no doubt flagged as a creeper.
Pampering is when a guy doesn't wanna rock the boat, like you seem busy, or overly engaged in other stuff... He'll not do that in very casual situations where your time is obviously free.
The equal stuff is when they feel that a connection is within reach, that you aren't likely to reject them. They wont do this if this is boring or the connection is implied (if you are in really close quarters dudes might see it as sappy to do this)
There will eventually be guys that do not fit this mold though. So you should be a little careful thinking we as men can be described these ways. They are actually just "considerations" or lack of consideration the guy is making at the time, and them reading the response of the girl regarding if it is ok to continue.
Each guy is theoretically capable of each given the right stimulus, and also can like a girl in each situation but so long as it doesnt create a level of unattainability because it is contextually out of place and shocks him.
Some guys will fit NONE of these molds and give off no signals you can rely on.
If you fall into habits as trying to define and manipulate it'll make you feel embarassed.
This is cuz you actually are being caught offguard sincee you aren't aware that guys can eventually trancend this and control it at will.
See if a dude willfully controls it, you can't PICK one route, you have to ask yourself the question "what route do I want", so h can acknowledge your choice and go with you on that choice. And if you don't LIKE that choice anymore, he is fine changing :P so you just need to show a purposeful shift and maybe a "hey, this way" type response in case he isnt paying attention.
Point is, best not to confuse it, there is plenty to worry about outside of stuff like this, so it is best these adjustments are done efficiently, not labored upon, and held against anyone.
Also somettimes dudes will trancend things you manipulate so you should have thought of a contingency :P