hey,
So been wanting to write this for some time since some of you asked.
A quick write up for how i would approach dancing as a hobby if i would start over.
In short dancing in itself makes a lot of sense for PU. Being physical with women, getting access to many, getting into a mor friendship/intimate based kinda relationship with many girls where touching each other is the key should make it pretty simple as to why. My entry was just from the fun of it and getting sucked into this as a fun social thing i did with friends. along the way it hit me and i turned towards making it more of an art. Having this in my life is a solid thing that gives me so much. and also provides a real value in my personality and life since i do it for me and as a life project with strong and healthy personal motivations.
i write this not as a guide for how to pickup women but as a way to have it as a hobby on the side that gives loads of real value benefits for Pu. But one i would advice to invest in for the richness in itself. for you.
Why i do it
Dancing as a hobby comes down to one primary thing for me that many seem circulate around in dancing:
The feel of moving my body within music. Together with a woman. and connecting with that floor full of dancers while doing so.
its one of the finest forms of pinging with other people - resonating in whats defined as one of the most harmonious movement forms. Theres a harmonic liberation and expression in a freely dancing guy and once you get technique and platform down the freedom gets a quality that heightens the feel. depth is limitless. which is why some dancetypes are referred to as "soul dancing".
As a hobby it is an extremely relaxing thing to do to be honest as it frees up energy and let me be body and music for an hour or two. I consider it more relaxation and joy than something to work on to be honest even if i meet 3 times a week w girls to train figures and techniques. Theres a certain addiction often happening w people when they get into it.
Also Its a great way to get closer to girls in your life - 3 of my inner circle girls come from dancing and i have 3 partners i work with since i dont take classes but focus on my own artistry as a dancer. Needless to say you dont have to follow this deeper sense of it - its one ive attained over many years. But its key to follow a deeper pull into the music rather than just starting to dance cause its good for pu.
in sum - the why
- There is huge richness in musical connection and moving to music for us - expression and unfolding yourself is the key here (not seduction). the word expression is important. not impression.
- Connecting with people in a non mental way - around a simple connective social thing. aka a new way of going out and meeting other people.
- The intimacy of it and a certain body way of connecting with girls which is naturally embedded in it
- To be in the Body is often a nice job contrast for people working with thinking like me. After a busy day 1 hour of dancing gets me into the night with a whole new energy and state.
How to get going
Below an actionable list to get going that is somewhat smart
Step1 - selecting and first action
- sid down and choose your music as the offset - what music do you like? Then look into which style of dancing inspires you. Then check them out. But focus on What music automatically makes you wanna move and express it. for instance i get a migraine from tango but mambo (referred to as salsa NY style by ) makes me go on fire. Others has exactly the opposite and loves tango.
- I would go for couples type dancing for pu. It will give you styling abilities if you pick some but i find the push pull of proximity and learnings in terms of leading the girl physically and building a naturalness there is key to seduction - to operate in that part of the dance. You also learn to lead touch and pressure which is an art in itself.
To me its about going for the pull that attracts you inside - feel what music and sort of dancing appeals to you. There will be couple dances in relation to all type from my experience. If not just becoming part of a dancer circle can be fun. note that some are more edgy than others if edge matters. Especially cause musical genres intermix and it will slide in everywhere. i can help you get creative on how to find musical genres. Sometimes it might be hard to find it locally though.
- Sign up for a class and get your ass going
Step2 - establishing rhythm - weekly structure
- Speak to the people at class and set up going out together. half the thing of going to class is to build friends within the community. Partly cause its scary for many in the beginning to go out to dance floors where good people unfold right in front of you. its quite intimidating. Being with others on the same level makes it a lot easier.
- Finding one chick slowly to practice with 1 day outside the class. it makes hell of a difference in your progression. should be manageable in your own home somehow (i just slide up my sofa and make space).
Step3 - more optional but if you want to excel or learn fast
- Expand your female partners as you see fit. Sometimes starting out with a less attractive one can be smart. dedication and stability is better than high levels. Today i train with 2 high caliber girls nd one more plain and less of a dancer - but whos great and have been there much of the way and has a great person i like and appreciate.
- Ive used great dancer girls for privates - gave me access to them and lifted me hugely. provided access to other good girls. Im heading traveling with one of them soon who ive now become friends w.
The above model has made me accelerate beyond most other "students" who just went to class once weekly. needless to say the more you add the more you improve. And you will see a difference as you progress a lot more and the girls will seek you more in class than most of the other guys.
Minimum Time needed
- 1-2 hours in the evenings a week min. preferable 2-4 eg 2 sessions of 1.5 hours and some transport. this will change however as one gets pulled in by it and you might find yourself doing this a lot more.
- Going out time (this is often easy as you grow a circle of friends and can just go out a couple of hours if you wanna hit a venue eg from 22-24 without no need to do nothing but show up. Alcohol intake is limited if u like this.
Just a bit of my angle on things as a starting point. hope that gives something - Hit me up w your questions and lets unfold it from there.
So been wanting to write this for some time since some of you asked.
A quick write up for how i would approach dancing as a hobby if i would start over.
In short dancing in itself makes a lot of sense for PU. Being physical with women, getting access to many, getting into a mor friendship/intimate based kinda relationship with many girls where touching each other is the key should make it pretty simple as to why. My entry was just from the fun of it and getting sucked into this as a fun social thing i did with friends. along the way it hit me and i turned towards making it more of an art. Having this in my life is a solid thing that gives me so much. and also provides a real value in my personality and life since i do it for me and as a life project with strong and healthy personal motivations.
i write this not as a guide for how to pickup women but as a way to have it as a hobby on the side that gives loads of real value benefits for Pu. But one i would advice to invest in for the richness in itself. for you.
Why i do it
Dancing as a hobby comes down to one primary thing for me that many seem circulate around in dancing:
The feel of moving my body within music. Together with a woman. and connecting with that floor full of dancers while doing so.
its one of the finest forms of pinging with other people - resonating in whats defined as one of the most harmonious movement forms. Theres a harmonic liberation and expression in a freely dancing guy and once you get technique and platform down the freedom gets a quality that heightens the feel. depth is limitless. which is why some dancetypes are referred to as "soul dancing".
As a hobby it is an extremely relaxing thing to do to be honest as it frees up energy and let me be body and music for an hour or two. I consider it more relaxation and joy than something to work on to be honest even if i meet 3 times a week w girls to train figures and techniques. Theres a certain addiction often happening w people when they get into it.
Also Its a great way to get closer to girls in your life - 3 of my inner circle girls come from dancing and i have 3 partners i work with since i dont take classes but focus on my own artistry as a dancer. Needless to say you dont have to follow this deeper sense of it - its one ive attained over many years. But its key to follow a deeper pull into the music rather than just starting to dance cause its good for pu.
in sum - the why
- There is huge richness in musical connection and moving to music for us - expression and unfolding yourself is the key here (not seduction). the word expression is important. not impression.
- Connecting with people in a non mental way - around a simple connective social thing. aka a new way of going out and meeting other people.
- The intimacy of it and a certain body way of connecting with girls which is naturally embedded in it
- To be in the Body is often a nice job contrast for people working with thinking like me. After a busy day 1 hour of dancing gets me into the night with a whole new energy and state.
How to get going
Below an actionable list to get going that is somewhat smart
Step1 - selecting and first action
- sid down and choose your music as the offset - what music do you like? Then look into which style of dancing inspires you. Then check them out. But focus on What music automatically makes you wanna move and express it. for instance i get a migraine from tango but mambo (referred to as salsa NY style by ) makes me go on fire. Others has exactly the opposite and loves tango.
- I would go for couples type dancing for pu. It will give you styling abilities if you pick some but i find the push pull of proximity and learnings in terms of leading the girl physically and building a naturalness there is key to seduction - to operate in that part of the dance. You also learn to lead touch and pressure which is an art in itself.
To me its about going for the pull that attracts you inside - feel what music and sort of dancing appeals to you. There will be couple dances in relation to all type from my experience. If not just becoming part of a dancer circle can be fun. note that some are more edgy than others if edge matters. Especially cause musical genres intermix and it will slide in everywhere. i can help you get creative on how to find musical genres. Sometimes it might be hard to find it locally though.
- Sign up for a class and get your ass going
Step2 - establishing rhythm - weekly structure
- Speak to the people at class and set up going out together. half the thing of going to class is to build friends within the community. Partly cause its scary for many in the beginning to go out to dance floors where good people unfold right in front of you. its quite intimidating. Being with others on the same level makes it a lot easier.
- Finding one chick slowly to practice with 1 day outside the class. it makes hell of a difference in your progression. should be manageable in your own home somehow (i just slide up my sofa and make space).
Step3 - more optional but if you want to excel or learn fast
- Expand your female partners as you see fit. Sometimes starting out with a less attractive one can be smart. dedication and stability is better than high levels. Today i train with 2 high caliber girls nd one more plain and less of a dancer - but whos great and have been there much of the way and has a great person i like and appreciate.
- Ive used great dancer girls for privates - gave me access to them and lifted me hugely. provided access to other good girls. Im heading traveling with one of them soon who ive now become friends w.
The above model has made me accelerate beyond most other "students" who just went to class once weekly. needless to say the more you add the more you improve. And you will see a difference as you progress a lot more and the girls will seek you more in class than most of the other guys.
Minimum Time needed
- 1-2 hours in the evenings a week min. preferable 2-4 eg 2 sessions of 1.5 hours and some transport. this will change however as one gets pulled in by it and you might find yourself doing this a lot more.
- Going out time (this is often easy as you grow a circle of friends and can just go out a couple of hours if you wanna hit a venue eg from 22-24 without no need to do nothing but show up. Alcohol intake is limited if u like this.
Just a bit of my angle on things as a starting point. hope that gives something - Hit me up w your questions and lets unfold it from there.
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