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  • Does anyone else NOT use Facebook?

    I feel like the last human on earth without a Facebook profile.

    My reasons for not using it-

    1. False sense of validation/Internet addiction

    2. Privacy

    3. Don't feel cool enough (related to point 1 don't have tons of cool pics to upload and cool friends to add)

    But I'm beginning to think I'm missing out. I know lots of you guys pull ass via Facebook, and friends sometimes use Facebook to communicate social events and get togethers.

    So far I've judged Facebook a waste of time and potentially damaging via weird psychological shit associated with having an online "identity" (stalking, being stalked, seeking false validation online, deluding myself, feeling inadequate, etc)

    Any socially successful guys out there NOT using Facebook? I would love to hear your stories.

  • #2
    Originally posted by Shackleton View Post

    I feel like the last human on earth without a Facebook profile.
    .....
    So far I've judged Facebook a waste of time and potentially damaging .....
    Any socially successful guys out there NOT using Facebook? I would love to hear your stories.

    I am not using Facebook, the primary reasons being lack of privacy and waste of time. I do not know whether I could call myself socially successful, as I am an introvert with few friends (most people bore me), but I am certainly successful in getting sex (3 current FB/MLTRs in addition to a beautiful and smart younger wife).

    So here.

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    • #3
      I consider Facebook to be a technology of my generation.

      Therefore, I chose to use it to stay up-to-date.

      Of your reasons Shackleton, I feel that in my case, only #1 (false validation) applies.

      I don't post what I don't want others to know (#2), I don't care if other people think I'm uncool (#3).

      Nick
      Don't be upset by the results you didn't get with the work you didn't do.

      There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility lies in being superior to your former self. -Hemingway

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      • #4
        Staying up to date is a damn good reason.

        I am very very seriously considering taking the plunge...but the last thing I need in my life is another distraction.

        Getting banned from OKC has had a positive impact on my mind. Not sure I wanna fill that validation seeking hole with FB. :/

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        • #5
          I am not on facebook, and I say this proudly!
          I know friends who instead of going out and socializing in the REAL WORLD, stay in on that stupid site. I deleted my profile along with three other people who realised how time consuming, and addictive it can become. It gives people a FALSE sense of who they are. Many people can stay inside, and feel validated and can get fat and eat chocolate, and people will STILL call them hot.

          People should get out and smell the fresh air! and get involved in the world.

          Originally posted by Shackleton View Post
          Staying up to date is a damn good reason.

          I am very very seriously considering taking the plunge...but the last thing I need in my life is another distraction.

          Getting banned from OKC has had a positive impact on my mind. Not sure I wanna fill that validation seeking hole with FB. :/
          All the more reason NOT TO JOIN.

          You won't be any better off if you join it, I guarantee

          Unless you have a business and want to promote it the sheople,
          I WOULD RECCOMEND, steer clear!
          winning!

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          • #6
            I'm considering getting rid of mine. I feel FB can only do more harm than good. What, potentially, are you going to get out of facebook (other than validation, which none of us should need anyway)? You aren't going to get laid off of it, and potentially something you post can come back to bite you in the ass.

            The only reason I'm on it now is it is my only means of contacting some people I would like to keep in touch with.

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            • #7
              Last year around this time, an older friend of mine dared me to get rid of Facebook. I took him up on it, and I have SO much more time to be productive. And you don't really miss out on anything, either. You hear the important news the old-fashioned way.

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              • #8
                I just want to add that I know 0 girls in real life that are not on facebook + my friends on facebook.

                Also, I have 2 male friends that are not on facebook. We used to be friends. But then I moved to another city. Now we are simply acquaintances, because I mostly use facebook to stay in contact. Also, these two missed out on a whole lot of parties, because nowadays people don't send texts anymore to invite their friends to parties or gigs, they simply make an "event" on facebook and add whoever they want to come.

                I honestly believe, even with all the downsides, that not having facebook in this day and age is a social liability.

                Nick

                Unless you are the dominant center of a huge vibrant social circle. Then it's "cool" to not have facebook. But only then.
                Don't be upset by the results you didn't get with the work you didn't do.

                There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility lies in being superior to your former self. -Hemingway

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                • #9
                  I don't use it. I've had some education as a computer programmer in school, so even if I don't do too much programming nowadays and are not up-to-date, I can imagine what the people at facebook could do with all the data, and I don't like it. With all the "like"-Buttons jumping up on other sites, too, it's getting worse, for they could possibly read everything you do. It's closed code, after all, so no one except them know what they really do, as far as I know.

                  I've never signed up, but just using 3, 4 people who invited me via my personal email, they could figure out my full name, post adress, where I went to school, the dormitory I live now, my telephone number and 6 out of 8 guesses for possible friends were real people I knew quite well. The more people who use facebook, the more they will know just by combining all the data and using heuristics. I would not care too much if the code was open source because then you could be sure a lot of people would watch out for bad stuff, but if it's closed, you cannot really trust it.

                  About the organizational things, all the people at the university use it, and they do not send messages any more. But there are a lot of people who will just walk up to me and tell me all the details I have to know. I just miss out a lot of useless discussion where they quarrel on facebook about things that don't matter to me anyway.

                  I think social networks are an amazing tool, if it's used correctly. Check out the Diaspora project, they are already alpha now, it's open source and they are really focussed on keeping your data your data. When this one is running, I will probably check it out.

                  I have actually made the experience that a lot of people complement me on not using facebook. It's like not wearing shoes (which I do a lot). A lot of people suddenly have respect for you because you DON'T do what everyone does consciously (!). In these times, real eye-to-eye contact is becoming even more valuable than in past times, so if you are the guy who will offer that, that's really a cool treat to have. Facebook (and all technology) is a tool that can be used, but (as with many other tools) you have to watch out not to become the tool of it, always checking if someone posted something new.

                  Have a nice, relaxed sunday.
                  Jester
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                  • #10
                    I don't use it. It made me feel worse about myself and it absorbed a lot of my time.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Jester View Post
                      Check out the Diaspora project, they are already alpha now
                      Small threadjack:

                      Hey Jester,
                      I hadn't heard about Diaspora for ages. They are still in alpha? Wow!
                      I remember, they started their alpha in late 2010.
                      I would have sworn they would have gone under or at least entered their open beta by now.

                      Any idea if there is a fixed closed/open beta date?

                      Nick
                      Don't be upset by the results you didn't get with the work you didn't do.

                      There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility lies in being superior to your former self. -Hemingway

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                      • #12
                        I have no time for FB, but I realize that it may be the only way some people or businesses (that I want to hear from) can reach me. So here is my solution: I posted a FB page, but with no info, other than a link to my blog. I have had over 100 friend requests, but I don't friend them back. This keeps me from getting sucked in. It means I can't keep tabs on an HB's "status" for instance, but it is a worthwhile tradeoff. I would rather spend my social wanking time with you guys
                        I wanna get every SHB on the globe
                        We kiss and hug and then we disrobe
                        It's a short circuit in the frontal lobe
                        'Cause I'm a heterosexual man.

                        Odds "Heterosexual Man"




                        Fun, Freedom, fucking and fitness since 1976

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                        • #13
                          Why are you all assuming that just because you're on Facebook it will take a bunch of time? I guess if you have an addictive personality or zero self-control, then fine. But other than that?

                          I'm on Facebook. I'm acutally "on" there only once a week (usually Sunday morning), for less than about 10 minutes. It takes virtually no time, because I don't want it to. I only have 200 Facebook friends or so, making me very "uncool" in the Facebook world. Yet when I need to use it to resurrect LSNFTEs and re-fill my roster, it's there for me.

                          Remember that YOU set the rules for your life, not Facebook or anything else.
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                          • #14
                            here's my rules for facebook to keep things interesting:

                            subscribe to brands i like: musicians, bands, blogs, etc. this winds up being a filter for the internet so the news i want comes to me without effort.

                            unsubscribe to almost everyone on my "friends" list except for people i consider my closest friends (about 30 people).

                            never send a friend request.

                            never look at random photos.

                            post things on occasion that are either interesting or related to my promotional activities.

                            never post on other people's walls unless i've told them in person i'd send a link to something.

                            respond to what people post on my wall or comments on my photos in a reasonable amount of time.

                            don't get push messages on the phone.

                            block all random apps and games.

                            if you have something to market, you can't not be on facebook.

                            if you are a public figure, you can have a one-way feed so only you can start posts on your wall. i think you can moderate comments, too.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by NiccoloDaVinci View Post
                              Small threadjack:

                              Hey Jester,
                              I hadn't heard about Diaspora for ages. They are still in alpha? Wow!
                              I remember, they started their alpha in late 2010.
                              I would have sworn they would have gone under or at least entered their open beta by now.

                              Any idea if there is a fixed closed/open beta date?

                              Nick
                              Well, I've been following their progress a bit, but I just read some blog posts, I did not follow the technical details. As far as I know, it is working already and I think you can set up your own pod if you do have the resources. But it's not really open for anyone yet. I applied for an account the other day and it said it will take some time until I can join them, at most until September or Oktober. Which is pretty vague. So I think if you do have the resources and the knowledge, you could set up some small network for yourself and friends, but I am not sure if you can yet connect to everyone else there is. Perhaps you better just check out their site and see for yourself

                              Jester
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