For me:
1) alcohol doesn't help. (exception: when she is so guilt ridden and has a hard time giving herself permission to open up, alcohol provides a plausible excuse. Still I try to avoid it)
2) being horny increases my motivation BUT ALSO my outcome dependency. Being attached to an outcome is the biggest factor in AA. When you realize you have a precious thing to offer, you'll start feeling used and then you'll wish you got back a bit of the AA tension. I still get AA sometimes. I think I relish it when I do.
3) you say you get approached (by 6's, etc.) Instead of being busy staying above them, pay close attention to those interactions. You will be surprised how natural women can make it, talking to strangers. Knowing that women see approach as natural should ease your mind. Try to emulate, if not their exact words, their openness, vibe, etc. They tell you what they want to hear. Just get out of your head and learn to listen.
OK, just read page 1 and 4, please ignore my advice if redundant.
1) alcohol doesn't help. (exception: when she is so guilt ridden and has a hard time giving herself permission to open up, alcohol provides a plausible excuse. Still I try to avoid it)
2) being horny increases my motivation BUT ALSO my outcome dependency. Being attached to an outcome is the biggest factor in AA. When you realize you have a precious thing to offer, you'll start feeling used and then you'll wish you got back a bit of the AA tension. I still get AA sometimes. I think I relish it when I do.
3) you say you get approached (by 6's, etc.) Instead of being busy staying above them, pay close attention to those interactions. You will be surprised how natural women can make it, talking to strangers. Knowing that women see approach as natural should ease your mind. Try to emulate, if not their exact words, their openness, vibe, etc. They tell you what they want to hear. Just get out of your head and learn to listen.
OK, just read page 1 and 4, please ignore my advice if redundant.
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