Like if someone says "you gotta lead" and I say "ok, but I tried that with this one girl and she shut down"
That's not arguing, that's presenting a fact that needs reconciliation!
Should I be more direct? Should I ask "ok, but what about this one time, what's that about?"
Because I'm noticing a pattern where I'm misunderstood and I need to fix that ASAP so pl;ease, help me.
as for fruitful conversation, I'm not sure exactly what he means.
I can have conversations where I make people smile and laugh and like talking to me, but I feel empty inside because it's one sided.
I'm assuming he means a conversation where we BOTH get something out of it. If that is the case, the answer is a loud NO because I can only give people what they want and never get what I want.
With the milf I recently f*cked up with, I had great conversations with her but it was all one sided.