As i alluded to, I had a few dates with my hairdresser and I'd like to seduce her, but i definitely feel something was off in my texting (too "gamey" I think) and I tried to escalate her to sex.
.But here's a question about genuineness vs. PUA: See, I liked the idea of escalating and making her submit to me sexually, and the idea of mutual escalation sounded too, I dunno, robotic to me. Whereas escalation was more passionate and "in the moment". So you see, those kinds of clashes are what I struggle with most, and it's very hard for me to know what is a fundamental, and what is simply personal preference.
Passionate vs. coy seduction is indeed preference. But both must be tempered with the opposite. If you play coy, she must feel the simmering passion that you are containing under the surface. If you play Pepe Le Pew, there must be a bit of tongue in (your own) cheek, She must feel that you are able to walk away and be just fine. I like to be somewhere in between. I like to "lead from behind". I like to listen to her needs and pace myself one step behind her desire. Listen to her desire and give it to her passionately but only once she's on the brink of begging for it. Like a Pepe Le Pew on retard mode. Not sure if that makes sense.
Sorry, about the fundamentals question. I'm terrible at extracting universal laws from specific instances. Maybe others can help.
.As for "add" vs. "give" I don't understand. What do you mean? If you simply mean express myself then yeah, that's easy enough. But if you mean express myself in a way that women will respond to, i guess I have trouble with that.
....Those are my 2 main goals of pick up: to get good enough to seduce and fuck any woman while having the best relationships with nearly everyone.
And then there is always chloroform
But enough with the theory. You are doing well. Your online banter is getting better, more flirty. Keep going. Meanwhile there is a hairdresser waiting to get laid... I'm sure she's not offended by your desire for her. She might fuck you or she might not but I'm sure she enjoys any attention you give her (so far.)